By Laurie Gerber on October 28, 2010
I’m obsessed with personal growth and have spent my life devouring everything I could get my hands on regarding how to make dreams come true, all the way to becoming a Handel Life Coach and running the life coaching arm of The Handel Group for the last four years. Many teachers of the Law of Attraction would lead you to believe that whatever you can see in your mind’s eye and concentrate on, you can have. But I have found, it is not that simple.
The truth of the metaphysics behind the Law of Attraction is that what you can feel, you can attract; what you resonate consistently with, is who you are, and you attract accordingly. Also, when you become clear about what you want, you become more likely to see signs pointed towards it and can more quickly draw yourself and it together.
But, there is a lot more “fine print” they don’t tell you.
Personal integrity (aligning your heart, your mind and your actions) is actually the foundation of being able to manifest that which you desire. To have that thing/experience you desire, you have to believe you and it belong together. How do you learn to believe? Not easy, right? Think of all that’s in the way of you believing in having:
-A beautiful body that you honor consistently.
-Deep, true lasting love.
-An amazingly successful and easeful career.
-Abiding self-love.
What’s between you and your dream is all your past experiences and choices and how they impact you, not to mention your constant inner dialogue filled with worries, detractions, reminders of your (or another’s) inadequacies, and general brattiness.
So how can you quiet your mistrust of yourself and your noisy mind? There are many ways, but the best is to develop personal integrity, which means living according to your ideals. It means doing what you said you’d do. It means making and keeping promises (this is the exercise that builds the muscle). It means lining up your heart, mind and body.
Whatever your dream is, it is the law of attraction that will determine how quickly you achieve that dream (how much do you resonate with it?). If you want to use the law to your advantage, develop personal integrity. Here are a few steps to get started:
Step 1: Articulate your dream. Dare to feel it and share it even if you don’t believe it yet.
Example: I live in a warrior’s body: strong, proud and free to experience all of life’s pleasures.
Step 2: Write out your internal dialogue about why you can’t or don’t have your dream yet. Then, analyze this for bad logic, excuses, skewed theories, unresolved past experiences, etc.
Example: I’ve never accomplished this in the past, nobody supports me, experts have told me certain things are impossible, etc.
Step 3: Undo the bad logic and skewed theories you uncovered in step 2.
Example: Try to find the flaws in your distorted thinking and replace negative thoughts with more positive ones. Be mindful of negative thoughts as they arise and question their validity.
Step 4: Make a list of promises that take you to your dream and keep them! Action makes you feel different.
Example: I will drink eight glasses of water every day, start the day with green juice, write a letter to my body apologizing for my crimes against it, etc. Tell supportive people about your dream, write up a plan, start asking for help and accountability.
Coaching begins with covering these steps in all the important areas of your life. You can see how this causes an enormous shift in how you think and act. Yes, how you feel impacts how you think and act. But how you think and act utterly impacts how you feel. The easiest access to changing your thoughts and feelings is acting in accordance with your dream. Lucky you, you can dive in and start doing that today.
One more recommendation:
Come play with Elena Brower and me for a daylong experience on the subject of raising your vibration. Yup, we’ll be “om-ing” and “saluting the sun,” but there is so much more.
Raise Your Vibration Urban Retreat
This one-day urban retreat is designed to raise your vibration and to give you practical techniques to live a happier, calmer and more inspired life. Imagine what your daily life would look like infused with (short) practices for self-awareness, self-love and manifesting your dreams. Every moment is an opportunity to raise your vibration and each one counts. Instead of waiting for your dreams to come to be happy, start being happy first and watch your dreams come, as a result.
This special retreat is led by two expert teachers: Elena Brower, founder of Virayoga, and Laurie Gerber, President of Handel Group Life Coaching. They have extensively practiced and taught the methods you will learn and they are prepared to hand over the whole bag of tools at once! Retreat includes: yoga, meditation, breathing, gratitude, heart opening, listening, writing exercises, getting freedom from your mind, how to have hard conversations and Law of Attraction practices.
November 6, 2010 2:00 pm – 9:00 pm at the Benjamin Hotel, 125 East 50th Street, NYC
Learn more…
Laurie Gerber is the president of the private coaching division of The Handel Group, a corporate consulting and private coaching company that specializes in teaching personal integrity as the key to happiness.
Photo Credit: Dawn Huczek
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By Guest Blogger on February 9, 2010
Judith Orloff, MD
At different times in my life, I am a physician, a teacher, a friend and an author, but being a dreamer is what I value the most.
Whatever I am doing, I always hear my dreams echoing in a distant underground chamber beneath my thoughts and feelings, attuned to the rhythms of my body and the very substance of the earth. They are my compass and my truth; they guide me and link me to the Divine. They call out to me in an intimate whisper, always knowing how to find me. They speak my real name.
For me, dreaming is a direct line to a place where magic abounds and nothing is without meaning. It is a pristine state of awareness, unpolluted and clear. Direct guidance for healing lies in our dreams, the natural territory of intuition. Here, time and space are non-existent, and anything is possible. Like a blank, white canvas, our dream world is a spacious medium where intuition can freely express itself. We have only to listen.
You are in partnership with your dreams. Initiate an ongoing dialogue with them. It’s like consulting the wisest doctor you can imagine who knows you inside out. You can ask your dreams anything. No question is trivial if it is meaningful to you. Expect answers. Some will be direct. Others may require interpretation.
Your dreams can reveal many truths about your life. They can provide extraordinary intuitive insights and give you information that can help your health, love life and career. You’d be surprised at the straightforward advice that your dreams give, either spontaneously or on request.
Dreams can keep you well. Dreams provide answers, but first you must retrieve them. Here are my four strategies to help you remember your dreams:
· Keep a journal and pen by your bed.
· Write a question on a piece of paper before you go to sleep. Formalize your request. Place it on a table beside your bed or under your pillow.
· In the morning, do not wake up too fast. Stay under the covers for at least a few minutes remembering your dream. Luxuriate in a peaceful feeling between sleep and waking, what scientists call the hypnagogic state. Those initial moments provide a doorway.
· Open your eyes. Write down your dream immediately; otherwise it will evaporate. You may recall a face, object, color, or scenario, feel an emotion. It doesn’t matter if it makes perfect sense or if you retrieve a single image or many. Record everything you remember.
When you’re finished, refocus on the question you asked the previous night. See how your dream applies. One, two, or more impressions about the who/what/where of your solution may have surfaced. Get in the habit of recording your dreams regularly. Be assured, I’ve never met anyone who can’t be taught how to remember. Keep at it. Remember to practice. Soon, it will become second nature to you!
In addition to the practical aspects of remembering dreams, there’s an intuitive level to understanding dreams. Reliable intuitive information stands out in very specific ways. Watch for these clues:
· Statements that simply convey information
· Neutral segments that evoke or convey no emotion
· A detached feeling, like you’re a witness watching a scene
· A voice or person counseling you, as if you’re taking dictation from an outside source
· Conversations with people you never met before who give instructions.
I’ve found that my most dead-on intuitions either come across as compassionate or have no emotion at all. Develop a careful eye as you practice separating the content of your dreams from your reactions to them. Soon, you’ll be able to tell the difference between unreliable guidance and truly reliable guidance.
Be aware that your dreams go by different rules than your waking life. Get ready for a mind shift. Physical laws no longer apply. Gravity changes. In dreams, you can fly!
Judith Orloff, M.D is author of the new updated bestseller SECOND SIGHT, an inspiring and controversial memoir about coming to terms with her intuitive gifts, upon which this article is based. Her other books are Emotional Freedom, Guide to Intuitive Healing, and Positive Energy. She is assistant clinical professor of Psychiatry at UCLA and an international workshop leader. For more information about new updated edition of Second Sight and Dr. Orloff’s books and workshops visit www.drjudithorloff.com
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By Terri Cole on October 6, 2009
Hey Dreamy Dreamers!
I had a dream to complete a mini triathlon and on August 29th, 2009 I did just that. I resent the mini label as .5 mile swim, 18 mile bike, 3.2 mile run…IN A ROW AS FAST AS YOU CAN felt major to my tush! It was truly an amazing event and left me feeling ridiculously inspired. It got me thinking about the nature of dreams and goals and how they enrich our life experience and keep it interesting. Completing the race taught me many things. The following is a list of the top 5 things I learned from my experience.
1. You can do anything you put your mind to doing. I used to say,” I am not a runner.” Then our son, Alex turned us onto Chi Running by Danny Dryer and my experience was transformed. You are what you say you are. I learned I am a runner.
2. “All game- no gear” was apparently my mantra for this race as the pictures will attest. I learned that there is a good reason why people have gear like a wet suit cause it was freakin’ freezing and proper bike shoes etc. I learned that gear is good.
3. Swimming is swimming, right? Wrong. Swimming in a pool is not even a tiny bit like swimming in a lake with 50 other people around you. I learned that training in the body of water you plan to race in is imperative to not freaking out on race day.
4. Completer or competer?, I was asked. I said I am a completer but why do I care about my time (2.09 25 seconds #175 out of 300) and why did I just tell you my time and completion number?? I learned I am both a completer AND a competer.
5. Racing keeps staying fit interesting. I will continue to do mini triathlons because I loved the entire experience. I learned that pushing myself outside of my comfort zone expanded my mind as well as my muscles!
So I invite you to ask yourself what dreams you have given up on and why? Really challenge yourself to go back and think about what your dreams were and why they changed. In my practice, clients tell me often how they are too_______(insert limiting belief here: old, fat, tired, etc.) to attain their goals. There is no such thing as too late for most dreams. I was a talent agent representing super models until my 30’s when I realized that dream was fulfilled and no longer fulfilling me. I went back to school to create my next career and fulfill my dream of empowering people to have the best life experience possible. Since we all know the universe can only say yes, be mindful of what you create with language. You are exactly what you say. If you are the architect of your life (and you are) what are you building?? It’s never too late to do ANYTHING unless you think it is.
Go out and live your best life. Remember not one minute of this beautiful experience is guaranteed you. Every moment, every second is a gift. Find what is right in your life and have enormous gratitude for it. Find what is wrong and change it. You are the only person responsible for your happiness so expand your idea of what is possible.
If not you…who?
If not now…when?
I am cheering you on like a wild maniac!!!!
Love Love Love,
Terri
P.S. I also learned from my friend Keylla that as a Triathlon-er you are only aloud to talk about the race for the time it took you to actually complete the race. So I believe my two hours, nine minutes and 25 seconds are officially up!
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