Thanks Kris! My most prominent negative thought pattern around motivation is probably: ‘whatever I do it doesn’t matter anyway’. It comes accompanied by thoughts around perfectionism: ‘I have to get it right’, so I suppose it’s a double whammy. I have to be ‘perfect’, but even if I am it doesn’t make a difference. Actually it makes me laugh writing it out like that. Isn’t it crazy, the thoughts we believe?!

Since I haven’t found a groove yet with my healthier lifestyle. Most of my negativity comes in as, “But it’s so much work, and I’m no good at it.” Or, “People will think I’m too high maintenance or crazy.” I’m going to start with forgiving it, like I know I should. Thanks for the encouragement!

Good luck with the EFT!

I absolutely agree: we are what we think. Our thoughts lead to our emotions, which directly impact our behaviour, and our bodies. If we change our thoughts (by writing them down as you suggest, saying them out loud…. getting them OUT of our heads) then we can change the way we feel. A great book for learning this is a cognitive behavioral therapy manual called “Mind Over Mood”.

I think another important point about motivation is that is comes from doing…. people sometimes think they just aren’t motivated … it’s this “thing” other people have. But really, if you do something, and then create more positive thoughts about yourself, you will increase your motivation to do even more. Positive reinforcement!

Thanks Kris! What a great topic.

I agree with Sarah, Michelle S. and Amber – I KNOW practice makes perfect, so why am I so afraid to put myself out there and ‘practice’ until I find my groove? I have to get outta my head and make this healthy way of life a habit – I am worth it, it does matter and I only get this one shot in this one wonderful body. Thank you for your vlogs and I can not wait to hear more about EFT!!
XOXOXO

Lovely advice on forgiving our negative thoughts. We’re sometimes so unkind to ourselves, we don’t even allow ourselves negative thoughts. I like the idea of acknowledging and forgiving and letting them go.

Lovin your vlogs Kris!! This one in particular hit home for me. Lately I have been feeling very unmotivated. I have been a procrastinator my entire life and so want to change that rather than accept it as my reality. But the thoughts that take over in my mind are things like “I am not good enough”, “Why bother, I am no good at it”, “Its too much work”
It gets overwhelming at times. I want to get control over those negative thoughts swimming around in my head 24/7 but the hardest thing for me is where to begin.
I like the idea of journaling, so maybe that is a good place to start!
Thanks Kris!! xo

Hi Kris! I love love love your vlogs, ultra-inspiring! I think my biggest negative thought lately would be that no matter how hard I try to live as an example of radiant health and wellness to my friends and family, they aren’t ever going to wake up and start taking their lives and health seriously. It’s a big fat downer!

Thanks to you for inspiring me to jump on the bandwagon.
:)

Thanks for doing this! You are talking about realities that plague so many of us. What happens to me? Just like so many that have commented above, I sabotage myself by becoming overwhelmed by thoughts of not being good enough. I’m working on just being more aware of what I’m doing to myself and then I can make the decision to take a higher road. Your suggestion of forgiveness is wonderful, for I often forget to forgive myself!

Kris, your vlogs put a smile on my face and a spring in my step! Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

My negative belief is that I will always be sad (from a childhood wound)and I’ll never feel truly alright with life, so why does it really matter. However, people like you who strive continually to transcend the difficulties in life inspire me to continue trying. Plus, my two little boys make it an absolute must!

Kris, this is so great! I really need to use the whole “let it go into the light” thing. I also like to cut the cords. When something is really bothering me or someone really pissed me off, I imagine the situation growing from me with cords attached then I cut them in my mind and watch them float away. Then I close my imaginary door in my mind and let them free into the universe.

I also sabotage myself when I feel I slipped up or didn’t do as good as a should. I have days where I feel I am being a good person and other day when I feel I’m a bad person. I’m sure it stems from the fact that my parents always told me I was pretty on the outside and my sister was pretty on the inside. I am always striving to be beautiful on the inside, even though I don’t feel beautiful out or inside.

Hey hey hey!

You are all so wise! On the topic of illumination and forgiveness, once you uncover the neg thought pattern that blocks the motivation, then you have a great opportunity for self-growth. Let’s take the “I’m not good enough” feeling – who told you that? Who made you feel that way? Perhaps it was your dad – whether you want to forgive him or not really doesn’t matter, what matters is letting go of the false feeling that’s holding you back, what matters is YOU. Make sense? I have another really really good idea for you. I’ll post it next week for sure. This is awesome! xo

Thank you Kris!! Keep up the awesome vlogs! Letting go is so huge. emotional baggage is so hard on the body and the mind and to let it go..ahh what a feeling. I hope I can learn to do this more often!

Right on, GF! You were born to vlog! Also, glad to know where glitter originated! Muah!

Thank you for another wonderfully inspiring vlog! I’ve been waiting for it all week.

The underlying negative thought pattern that most sabotages my motivation involves worrying what others will think of me. There’s an inner critic that often censors my ideas before I can even explore them fully let alone manifest- it totally kills playfulness and creativity! Ugh. I’m also a high-achiever and have big expectations of myself but never feel like I measure up to my or society’s expectations. Unfortunately this leads to fearful assumptions about how people will react to me and my ideas/work – I expect to be judged harshly personally, professionally and creatively.

I observe the critical censoring voice and try to rationalize with it or replace the negative thoughts with supportive ones and it’s an ongoing process.

I’m also revising my own expectations – finding joy in the process vs. just the end result and working on opening up more fully to people and not believing the assumed judgements that pop into my head automatically – because hello! then I’m doing just what I’m afraid others are going to do! Judging them as judgmental…

My mission is to fall in love with humanity and live from the understanding that we are all one.

Any other advice to combat this type of stinkin’ thinkin’?

Hi Kris,

Perfect timing with your vlog, which happens a lot when I visit each morning.

Lately I’ve been on a “I care-I want to fix this…oh screw it…no I care – I want to work on this…oh screw it” repetitive pattern. I’m not motivated to do good things for my health and lose weight because I never ever stay consistent. No matter how long I stick with something, 6 weeks, 3 months, 2 years… I always give up and revert back to how I was before, which is invariably unhealthy. I’m tired of the cycle of trying and failing, or accomplishing and failing to maintain. What’s the point if I’m just gonna give up and gain weight and get unhealthy again anyway? Bleh.

I want to let these thoughts go, but they keep erupting in my head. I’m afraid I’ll be telling them to go to the light for the rest of my life! I wish I could just shut up that voice!

Thanks for your insights!

Katie D

Wow! My main negative thought is – “No matter what I do, I am always gonna be the sick chick” with the Stage 4 canser! UGH! I took awesome care of myself before I got sick and it still happened, so WHY bother? I love the idea of letting this negative crap go – easier said then done, but I am going to work on blessing it and sending it into the light! I honestly do not know where my negativity about this comes from – my parents where and are SO supportive and loving as is my hubby. Just me, I guess – goes back to that other awesome blog on perfectionism!
Love ya – J

Letting go is great, but if you can’t, try looking at the evidence. Take a negative belief like “I’m not good enough” and list all the evidence that says that is not 100% true. Then use that evidence to form a more balanced belief and start looking for evidence to support this new belief. Once you start looking at the evidence (kind of a structured way to journal) those negative beliefs start to look a little silly, or at least lose some power!

Lately, I find myself awaking from sleep in a fright and yelling out loud …. “What am I gonna dooooooooo???!!!” I’m so deep in debt; so burdened with caring for two very ill senior relatives (and there’s no other family members left to help); so drained from not enough rest, time, help, whatever…. So my negative belief is simply worry and the dread that comes from feeling powerless to effect change and thus hopeless for a positive outcome.

Hi! I just discovered your website thru VitaVillage. I’m currently going thru chemo for Stage 2A Triple Negative Breast Cancer. 16 treatments of chemo. Completed 4 AC’s (aka Red Devil) and now had my first Taxol today…11 more remaining. I’m doing very badly at eating how I should be eating. But I’m ready to Just Do It! I don’t like how the foods I’m eating are making me feel and know that good foods make me feel better. But with full time work, sometimes it’s just not convenient or quick. But no more exuses, right! My negative thought with this whole cancer stuff is that after all this chemo I’m scared of “it” coming back and maybe even worse that it was. My tumor was only 2 months old according to the pathology and the rate of growth. So that shows me I’ve got to be on my toes about this stuff! So I’m ready. I need motivation. I will check back on your site to help with those things. Thank you so much for your story. Good luck to you, Sista! Lori

wow Kris, I am stumped! Sitting here thinking about my negative thought, I’m full of “fuzz” and the only one I can pull out is the usual one for me, “you won’t follow through, so don’t even bother. You’re too far gone anyway.” What?!?! Can’t be true – and seeing it typed here, I feel sad for my precious little inner self that has to endure all of this torture! Thanks for your inspiration and vlog for thought! You rock. I’m already dispelling the myths…..

Since I became Vegan I always feel like I am “high mantiance” esspecially when my parents make comments to others that I have a hard time finding things to eat (out at restraunts). I know they dont mean to do it and make me feel bad but it does. I make my own food almost everyday and get questions about “what are you making now” and “how long is this going to take”.
Seeing how much heart disease is in my family and other diseases keeps me motivated. I may not be perfect (I am a perfectionist in many things) but know I am trying my best. Even if Im not able to skip all the diseases that are genetic but help the Chronic Neurolic Condition I have its worth every minute in the end.

Lori – check out chapter 6 in my first book, crazy sexy cancer tips. Everyone read Michelle S’ second comment – really great info there. Mel – I think Michelle wrote that just for you! Much love…

Awesome thread. I have been in crisis lately and self-examination is a scary practice (one I am usually a natural at). Everything is resurfacing and I think my biggest hurdle is low to zero self-esteem. I think I must have expected everyone to drop everything and be there for me, and of course expectations always create disappointment (right?) so my worst negative thought lately is: nobody loves me, so why bother trying to heal. It is an awful place. I am sure that this will all make sense later, but for now I am just trying to count my blessings and do good things for myself to prove to lil ole me that someone does love me: ME! I also am trying to accept that people can love me and not know how to handle someone in grief at the same time. I have sought counsel in a local minister, and she has truly blessed and inspired me. She has awoken in me a passion to transform my life so that I may offer the kind of light and love and compassion to others she has shown me. Feeling unloved is perhaps the darkest place to be, for so many reasons. Why bother? comes up a lot, and also a lost ability to stand by my convictions since, well, if nobody loves me than how or why should I trust myself at all? So I try to rebuild my life and self-esteem in small ways; by focusing on those who are there for me, by making leomn water be the first thing that goes into my body (even if I have to down it ungraciously and quickly before I let myself drink the coffee) by cleaning my home, by allowing myself to deserve small things like candles, like nice walks, like painting.
I really love this thread. I am so ispired by Kris and the aforeentioned minister. Two days before crisis struck I was laid-off from my teaching job. I know being a teacher can be amazing in terms of what we can offer humanity, but now my goal is to reach higher and bring as much light to as many people as possible, like Kris and this woman and many others have done. I still have more questions than answers and I thank Kris from the bottom of my heart for providing us with the lifeline that is this site.

So glad to hear you are getting into EFT. I’ve been using the technique in my counseling sessions and also for myself for years and love it! Thanks for spreading the word.

PS, you are amazing

I so look forward to this every Friday now! I love the idea of letting it go into the light. I also appreciate the imagery mentioned above, about negative thoughts growing cords and then cutting them free. I’ve been using visualization to help me through many obstacles, so the more techniques, the better! A friend of mine made me a voodoo bird, and to each pin I attach a negative thought, then imagine that the bird will carry it away for me. Nice eh?

Thanks again, Kris! Believe me, I struggle with motivation and I’ve continued to use this site as a way to stay motivated. Sometimes the articles are just what I need and sometimes they aren’t; always good information, just not what I’m looking for or open for. Well, your vlogs are so great and give us readers so much motivation! I’ll definitely send negative thoughts into the light from now on–a much needed tip!

Great vlog – I must remember that phrase “bless it, thank it, send it to the light”. Your p.s. just made my day too. LOLs xo

Hey!!!

I don’t think I am a very negative person.. But letting go/forgiveness big problem area and no I know that these are holding me back.. Big time. Forgiving my dad and ex boy friend. Must be done.

Thank you Chris for those great tips!!!
When I do think about it I can actually see what the negative energy from holding these in is doing to my body and so preventing healing!!

Awesome!! Thanks:)

p.s ya why wouldn’t a unicorns fart glitter? of course it depends on your imaginations color combo.. LOL

awesome!!!! just what i needed!!!

ps – I just saw this on a discussion board and I think it relates to this discussion. It’s a great video series, and I can’t wait to learn more!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OL972JihAmg

Hi Kris! I love this Vblog! A few weeks ago I finished reading Louse Hay’s, You can Heal Your Life, and I keep telling myself when I am unmotivated or feeling any other negative feelings that it is all in my head. I have shared this theory with many women I work with who are struggling with weight and various illnesses. I try to tell them that if you tell yourself that you LOVE to eat healthy, you LOVE to exercise, and that it all makes you feel wonderful, then you will love it and you will feel wonderful :) Thanks for backing me up- I’ll be sending this Vblog to many of those ladies!

Just how much more motivation do I need!!Had cancer twice in the last 18months and still cant get it together with the eating right. I’ve spent to many years eating to much of the two C’s- cheese and chocolate- my negative thought that I bless and send to the light- Havent been able to be good to myself with eating and exercise in the last 40 years, why do I expect i can do it now!!Off you go negative thought……

overwhem.., lemon drink? no., first juice veggies, no, maybe miso soup first.
oh, and call bk doc.., also the other doc.., and ‘gotta get out there and enjoy’.., but am still afraid of planes! tho want to travel w/ my husband..,; meditate first.., no wlak while it’s not to hot.., no eat, cuz i’m starving. wait.., take yr pills, or mayeb do yoga first before eating. oh it doesnt matter. i’ll just stay online another hour.
think yr bks are among the best of the gazillion i’ve read! it’s not always like this, but indecision seems often an overhead cloud…

eft is great. there are many ‘kinds’ of tapping techniques. all good.
what i have found best is to find a practitioner to do it TO YOU sometimes.., often an AK[ msl testing] chiropractor. Many EFT people have taken training do the good work of teaching the basic self help only. Getting a deep block cleared out is wonderful! maybe that’s what i need.., hmmm.

Thank you SO much for this Kris! It is such a joy to see/hear you again! Motivation, laziness and negative self-talk (which I seem to be such an expert at) are definitely my biggest obstacles. I’m going to try your suggestions and keep reminding myself that I AM worth it! Also very excited to start using my new juicer I ordered from your website- it’s been tooo long since I last juiced.
Anyway- thank you again- you are BEAUTIFUL!

Hi all! Well not to toot my own horn but I’m the caller who asked her about motivation. I’m so glad she shared this topic because it is something I struggle with daily. I am still working on being more light and loving to myself and I’ve thrown myself into writing right now. It seems to be helping! I love the Vlogs so please keep them coming!

Cancer is not a evil disease to me, It’s the key to my LAST RESORT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you Kris!!!

Cheers~~~green drinks!!!