Comments on: Reduce Family Stress this Holiday

By: terri cole

terri cole — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 04:27:53 +0000

b-
i am so glad to hear that you feel good about your decision to draw boundaries that make sense for you and your family. it takes courage to be empowered and not the victim so GO YOU!! people are on their own trip about alcohol and what it means to them or their desire NOT to look at their relationship to it. deepak would say become the observer and stay out of judgment-it really is not personal so don’t write that script. continue to do what is right for you and before you know it -it will become the new normal. it feels good to have your boundaries respected even if it means people make a different choice. i hope you enjoy your time with your family!
love love love
your crazy sexy life coach
terri

By: Eco Mama

Eco Mama — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 22:52:17 +0000

Very comforting post–thanks!
xo
Eco Mama

By: B

Sat, 19 Dec 2009 21:43:06 +0000

I needed this today! Thank you so much for sharing your perspective.
I finally got the guts this year to request that no one bring alcohol to our family get together. There are several that have issues with that, however my husband and I are the only ones willing to open our home every year for us all to be together. I enjoy the event. The food, the fellowship, but there is always something ugly come from the consumption of alcohol. A couple of the family members have called since the request with dread that they now won’t be able to make it this year due to other commitments. These same family members have been here every year. Their reactions really make me sad that they think more of their tradition to have bourban in their egg nog than their tradition of spending the evenging with us, but I feel good about my decision.

By: terri cole

terri cole — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 03:27:16 +0000

melissa-
yes you WILL be happy this holiday season CONGRATS for the re realization!!
xo

By: linda

linda — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 21:47:11 +0000

Don’t think less of yourself…think of yourself less – Thanks, really like that quote and will make a note of it to remember going forward!

By: Melissa Libby

Melissa Libby — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 19:52:26 +0000

Just the reminder I needed. I’ve gone through some family drama the past 2 years and I really need a peaceful Christmas. Thanks Terri. I will remember what you’ve said. I’ve been trying to seriously implement these beliefs into my life for about a year now. I am the one who controls how I feel No one else. I can be happy this holiday season. xoxoxo

By: terri cole

terri cole — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 18:12:21 +0000

thanks rainbow! feels good to REMEMBER how it really is, ya know?
linda-i love the volunteer action. when my clients or friends are obsessing about whatevs i say GIVE GIVE GIVE as you will gain more or at least as much as those you help! great quote i read in body and soul mag (sorry can not remember who said it) DON’T THINK LESS OF YOURSELF…THINK OF YOURSELF LESS. And i add, think of others more :)
love love love
your crazy sexy life coach,
terri

By: linda

linda — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 17:13:31 +0000

I recently watched Pay it Forward – and it has quickly became one of my favourite movies. For the past two years I volunteer at a homeless shelter over the christmas break – and I will be doing it again – It’s such a rewarding experience and a wonderful opportunity to give something back to society.

By: rainbow

rainbow — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 17:01:54 +0000

I love your post Terri!
It was great to be reminded that we are the architects of our life experiences. It is so so true! love to you and happy holidays!