By Guest Blogger on July 23, 2009

Part II: Childbirth Today

Continuation of Part I: Childbirth Today…

The next step is for pregnant women to relearn the true experience of childbirth. We deserve to have a say in the medications we take or decide not to take. We need options so that we can decide where we will deliver our babies and who will be present at the delivery. We can take personal responsibility in creating exactly the kind of childbirth we want. We want to be treated as partners instead of as patients. We want to bond with our children immediately after their birth. And we want to design and create a childbirth that is safe, peaceful, and secure.

The absolute truth is that there are no rules when it comes to creating what you really want for your childbirth and for every aspect of your life. In fact, there aren ’t any rules except the ones you make up. My recent book, “Better Birth, The Ultimate Guide to Childbirth from HomeBirths to Hospitals” is based on the The BornClear program I created over 7 years ago and was created out of my own experiences.

When I was first pregnant, I searched for new as well as ancient ways to create a peaceful and memorable birth. I wanted to fully educate myself, so I pulled information from many resources, piecing together and creating exactly what I needed to be mentally, emotionally, and physically ready. I started to prepare my body for birth by learning to control the connection between my mind and my body through a variety of mental and physical practices that included prenatal yoga, meditation, and deep relaxation. Over the course of my journey, I became able to fully trust my natural birthing instincts, as well as my body, and I found myself tapping into a deeper, more enlightened space in my mind.

Nine months later, I witnessed the birth of my daughter. What impressed me most was that I felt completely awake and present to the divinity and wonder of the birth. Two years later, I experienced the same with my son, whose birth was also peaceful and beautiful. My life’s work has always been about teaching others how to create lives they can be proud of. After my childbirth experiences, I decided to focus this mission more specifically to be able to share my extensive birthing knowledge and life practice tools with other women.

The BornClear approach that I have developed works whether you plan on giving birth at a hospital, at a birthing center, or at home. What ’s most important is being mentally, physically, and spiritually prepared so that you can create the birthing experience you want for yourself and your family.

As you prepare yourself for birth, one of the other great facets of this journey is how much you personally grow. This gift of self-awareness and growth is also crucial in having a comfortable childbirth, but it is the one component that women often neglect. Without it, we have been forced to surrender fertility issues and the birthing of our children to a script defined by someone else, be it a doctor, a nurse, a midwife, friends, or even the media. This is why many women describe childbirth merely as the few hours they spent in a delivery room, instead of focusing on the lessons they learned during the entire pregnancy. These lessons support them in birthing themselves as mothers, fathers—conscious parents.

My main goal is to globally change the way we perceive and talk about childbirth. I want to empower all women so that childbirth is no longer talked about as “surviving an ordeal.” For this to happen, women have to take control of this experience. That is why I want every woman to be able to harness this gift — the ability to trust ourselves — so that we can reclaim birthing and make it a unique, individual event that meets our greatest expectations and desires.

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